assertiveness

ASSERTIVE RIGHTS

1. You have the right to independently assess your own behaviour, thoughts and emotions, and take responsibility for their occurrence and the consequences that they have upon you.
2. You have the right not to give reasons or make excuses to justify your behaviour.
3. You have the right to judge yourself whether you are responsible for solving other people’s problems.
4. You have the right to change your mind.
5. You have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.
6. You have the right to say, “I do not know”.
7. You have the right not to communicate with people, managed only by how they feel, or how they will feel; you have the right not to depend on the affection of other people.
8. You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
9. You have the right to say, “I do not understand”.
10. You have the right to say, “I do not care”.

RIGHTS “AS SEEN IN THE MIRROR”

1. Allow other people to be self-responsible.
2. Do not ask others to justify themselves to you for making their own choices.
3. Allow others to set their limits when it comes to you.
4. Let the other person change his/her mind.
5. Allow others to be wrong and their responsibility for their being wrong.
6. Allow others to be ignorant and clairvoyant.
7. Do not manipulate rejection and affection to control someone else’s behaviour.
8. Do not insist that others behave logically or according to your logic.
9. Do not ask other people, no matter for how long you know each other, to read your thoughts.
10. Allow others to make choices on their own, make judgements by themselves and grow to their own extent. Allow them not to take care about your definition of perfection.