ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
- You have the right to independently assess your own behaviour, thoughts and emotions, and take responsibility for their occurrence and the consequences that they have upon you.
- You have the right not to give reasons or make excuses to justify your behaviour.
- You have the right to judge yourself whether you are responsible for solving other people’s problems.
- You have the right to change your mind.
- You have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.
- You have the right to say, “I do not know”.
- You have the right not to communicate with people, managed only by how they feel, or how they will feel; you have the right not to depend on the affection of other people.
- You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
- You have the right to say, “I do not understand”.
- You have the right to say, “I do not care”.
RIGHTS “AS SEEN IN THE MIRROR”
- Allow other people to be self-responsible.
- Do not ask others to justify themselves to you for making their own choices.
- Allow others to set their limits when it comes to you.
- Let the other person change his/her mind.
- Allow others to be wrong and their responsibility for their being wrong.
- Allow others to be ignorant and clairvoyant.
- Do not manipulate rejection and affection to control someone else’s behaviour.
- Do not insist that others behave logically or according to your logic.
- Do not ask other people, no matter for how long you know each other, to read your thoughts.
- Allow others to make choices on their own, make judgements by themselves and grow to their own extent. Allow them not to take care about your definition of perfection.